You should see their faces

Tonight he revealed that when he tells people that he watches our kids--"You should see the look on their faces."

He is fueled by his inner strength of knowing it's the right thing to do. That's it's logical.

I can ignore imagined or real reactions when I explain how our family works. But to hear it from his perspective makes me angry. I never wanted him to be hurt.

Living counter-culturally is not easy and I believe that we're part of an emerging trend that has full support because a minority are vocal. I read the blog Daddy Dialect and am inspired by the small cultural shifts Jeremy Smith Adam describes in NBC's report: How Fatherhood Can Survive the Great Recession.

But the gender roles and what's expected of us continue. We are not shackled but weighed down.

It's hard to go to work every day and deal with all the expectations there and then come home to needy people. It's not easy to care for two small children, repeatedly do the same chores and get along with a tired, cranky wife. We are both unappreciated, unrewarded and undercompensated.

There is hope that we make it easier for the next generation.